who are you?

        Who are you? Are you what you do? What you say? What you think or believe?  A famous philosopher once said " To do is to be"--or, you are what you do. "What do you do?" was a standard phrase when getting to know a new acquaintance.  It meant "what do you do for a living?"  Of course we are a bit more than what we do--we are all the things we could, or might, do, given world enough and time. We are not simply our past, but also our present and in some way our future--our plans, hopes and aspirations.
      To other people, however, we can't really be much more than what we do. Other people know that everyone has plans, hopes, and aspirations, but they only know the plans of people who have shared their ideas with them. To your best friend or your brother you may be a lot of different beliefs and plans and ideas--to a stranger you are your school, work, legal or medical records.

Suggestion--you may refuse to define yourself by your behavior--but remember that to other people, you are what you do (or have done).